I had a hard day yesterday

Today, I want to remind you that everyone has hard days and it’s OKAY!
I had a  day with some hard moments yesterday, and thanks to all the tools I have, I was able to navigate it!

Do you see what I did there? You see how I said “hard moments” as opposed to “hard days”?

That’s step no.1 – recognising that while we may have hard moments – they do not make the whole day hard or our entire life hard. 

Our mind has this tendency where it takes one moment and generalise it by applying it to our whole day or whole life! The technical term for this is called “spreading”. 

It’s like that one thought or situation spreads like a virus throughout your entire day and life. That one rotten apple of an event spreads through all those other healthy parts of your day, making everything feel rotten.

Here’s what you can do to start changing the hard days:

  1. The next time you notice yourself saying “This is such a sh*t day” or “hard day” or “difficult day”,
     remember to correct yourself and say  “This was a hard moment.” As soon as you do this you will realise that the rest of the day was really ok, even good actually!
  2. When someone asks you, “How was your day?”
    Instead of replying without thinking and saying “Terrible!” or “Horrible!” or “Annoying!” and giving that one label to the whole day, take a moment to remember what your day was really like and maybe you will hear yourself say: “I had a difficult conversation with my boss, but I also laughed a lot with my colleagues and finished some important work.”

Ta-dah! You immediately feel better just by reading this right?

FYI: You see how I played with words there to change the entire thought process? You can learn this in the WordCraft masterclass. Yayyy!

Sometimes we can be so hard on ourselves because of what we perceive other people’s lives to be. Social media or just social situations can make us assume that others have it easy. And ASSUMPTIONS are a no! no! for your mental well-being.

Here’s another perspective I want to give you; Maybe when you look-

  • around at work, people seem to have their lives sorted. 
  • on social media, people seem to be happy all the time. And man social media can literally hypnotise us!
  • at a person who seems to always have the energy to do things and is on all day every day. And you wonder “How does she do it all?”

What you don’t know is:

  • That the person you see at work may be battling depression and has gotten really good at masking it.
  • The couple you see on Instagram who is so happy is working behind closed doors to make their marriage work.
  • The person who has so much energy is operating from a place of wanting to please people because they are so afraid to be alone. They are keeping themselves busy because they just can’t deal with loneliness.

What you see and compare yourself to is the surface-level stuff. And you know this – no one knows your entire life! You too are a different person at work, or in social situations. So you know that what we show others is not our entire life! That’s reserved for Coaching, therapy or special people.

I invite you, to please stop comparing yourself to others thinking that they have it easy!

The other day someone told me “Oh your business is running effortlessly! How do you know what it feels like to struggle?”

My answer was “My business is doing effortlessly because I put in the work! I have failed and gotten up again. I have had days where I just didn’t know what to do. I have made bad investments in Coaches only to learn that I didn’t need that Coach at that point. I have made mistakes. I cried when I felt overwhelmed!” And to tell you the whole truth, there are moments when it doesn’t feel effortless and in those moments I do the inner work!

You get my point, don’t you?

Feel free to drop me a comment or a DM when you apply this in your life and feel that change. I always love hearing about your wins.

Love,
Raashi

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